“Tired” is one of those red flag, meaningless words that we use to sugarcoat our disappointment.
OK OK OKAY, maybe not ALWAYS. Yeah. Sure. You’re legit tired sometimes.
95% of the time.
“Tired” is a sad, corrosive lens we live our life from.
“I’m just really tired today,” I said to my mom on a quick phone call. No. I was lying. I was feeling terrified and heartbroken and fragile and not really all that interested in getting into it.
Best to just say I’m tired.
If you are chronically tired, you lack a general enthusiasm for living.
When are you going to declare this a personal crisis?
Are you going to wait until it’s declared a global crisis by some public figure or government? God, I hope not. Let’s declare it now.
“But I have so much to do,” we moan.
And “I’m overwhelmed” is just as bankrupt as “I’m tired.”
(It took a full-blown 4 day emotional meltdown in 2016 for me to learn this, legit parading around my Brooklyn brownstone screaming “I’m so overwhelmed!!!!!” to everyone in my life as I cried and cried).
We wear busyness and burnout like badges of pride, as if we’re supposed to be running around, exhausted, proving our worthiness and value to the world.
“How are you?” “Soooo stressed.” “Life’s sooo crazy.” “OMG so busy.” “TIRED.”
Celebrating an anxious lifestyle has become normalized. It is another deep disfunction of capitalism.
It actually takes massive, massive courage to choose to commit to a life that is free of “too busy.”
It is a created life.
It is counter-culture. Subversive. Radical.
This is how we get from talking about being happy, to actually being happy.
This is how we get from talking about being free, to actually being free.
Yesterday I did an energy session with my teacher. We connect to Source and I got this image of being a male slave in another life. Beaten and whipped. I had a full blown trigger attack when I tapped into this — nauseous, stomach in knots, ancestral rage ripping through me.
When I asked Source, “How is this serving me now?” The hit I got was: “It’s why freedom really matters to you. And why teaching freedom is your life’s purpose.”
(This is an oath I completed, cleared, and am longer be “chained to” as of last night. But I digress…)
How did we to this crazy fuckin’ imagery? I started with one complaint in this session. The one I know is BANKRUPT:
I’ve been having some serious anxiety around taking on bigger projects and bigger games this fall. My calendar is already jammed and I’m scheduling dinner dates for October. I’m seeing more clients than ever, building several businesses, writing 5 albums with both clients and myself….
And I’m not really willing to do it without total joy and total space for everything I want my life to hold.
OK. So. HOW TO DO THIS:
🤮STOP GIVING YOUR ATTENTION TO BELIEFS THAT HURT YOU. There’s no value in giving your attention to your fatigue. Every time you give your attention to “tired” and you don’t want to be “tired,” you practice the vibration of it and you are no longer letting it be easy. And life becomes hard. And life becomes hard because your beliefs are rooted in “tired.” You’re beating the drum of “tired.” YOU’RE THE ONE INGRAINING IT INTO YOU. Be responsible for this.
✅CREATE A NEW REALITY. Like for real. You just keep looking at “what is,” and it keeps holding you where you are in your reality. Instead, create a new reality. You do this with simple thoughts. Simple thoughts like:
➡️“I’m really really good at managing my time.”
➡️“My dreams are so worthy of taking up all my time.”
➡️“Never before in all of the universe has there been more access to me doing whatever I want to do with my time.”
Those beliefs are also factual and true, and they don’t hurt when you think them. They don’t feel bad to you.
🚫“But isn’t it possible that I’m just doing too much?”
You’re never going to convince me that you can’t have everything you want. You just hold beliefs that are in your way.
You must own EVERYTHING in your life. It is all information for you. YOU are the Creator. Do whatever it takes to get a bigger belief. Do whatever it takes to improve the flow. Make it all work. Make it all work the way YOU WANT IT TO BE.
Why would you settle for less? You’re the only one in your way. Ew, don’t give the credit or the power to anyone else but you.